Sunday, November 28, 2010

Ups and Downs

it was a very busy 6mths to such that i do not even have the time to pen down my thoughts in my online diary... well i have changed job, took up studies and also readjust my finance... all these are sort of like draining my energy day by day...

at work.. my stubbornness is getting abit out of hand... it is so hard to readjust my working style to corporate life... any guidance out there?... well i am not complaining .. just need to learn how to grow out of my shell.. and to keep my comment to myself... i think the culture shift and to adjust is tougher than i thought... i need more time i guess... Ben! wake up! 

at school.. things are better... well sorta... results are not too bad.. well i think i can fair better... luckily i have a gang of hardworking course mates... each of us has our own strengths to pull each other thru the tide of juggling of work and study... thanks guys...

at home... well as much as i want to play my part financially... i will try to do so... occasional nagging and quarreling is inevitable.. but i try to contribute if i can.. well having to juggle work and studies is tough enough.. and with the added home pressure.. it is hard to swallow... but in any case.. home is the place where no trouble resides... and it is still the best place to soothe the weary body... warm food and surprises in the fridge...

i think a good pat on my shoulder and words of encouragement do help me to keep this spirit going.. Jia YOU!

Analyze your boss: managing upwards - Adrian Furnham

Most managers want to know how to manage certain of those more problematic staff: the chronic dissenter; the demotivated clock-watcher; Job’s comforter; the neurotically fragile. A great deal of time and effort, energy and worry go into trying to understand and motivate direct reports to be productive.

But the really smart manager spends as much time managing upwards. By definition, your boss has greater power and status than you. Bosses may or may not have broader wisdom and more experience but (nearly) always they have more power and influence and certainly more command of resources. They certainly are likely to have a great influence on you promotability, bonus pay and, indeed, quality of life.

Really shrewd managers learn to handle their bosses. The success of this strategy depends entirely on an understanding of the individual concerned. And this is much trickier than understanding reporting staff because managers mostly have much more data on those below them than those above them. Often, managers chose their direct reports; they have access to their files; they may even have valuable psychometric test information on their personality and motives. They certainly have much more daily contact with them. The quality and quantity of data that managers have is often extensive, while a remote (physically or psychologically) boss may be very difficult to know. Managers probably have up to 50 times more contact with their staff than with the bosses who maybe in a different building, city, even country.

But what are individual bosses really like? What are their ambitions and values? Who do they most admire or loathe in the organization? How do they manage upwards? And what pressures are they under? What rewards do they most value – promotion, bonuses, education, time off? What gives them most stress? Are they themselves high flyers or ceiling reachers? Are they totally trustworthy? And, even, are they sane?

A simple but effective way to begin managing upwards is to understand the abilities and personality of one’s manager.

A. Ability
How bright is your boss? Ignore qualification, rank and reputation: in assessing bosses, the question to ask how quick are they on the uptake? How quickly and accurately can they comprehend a report? How good is their vocabulary, written skills and articulateness? Can they “tumble-numbers”, read a balance sheet? The real test is in the unfamiliar, not the familiar. It’s called fluid intelligence. Experience leads to crystallized knowledge, but is only really useful in a stable world.

Those with bright bosses (that’s IQ not EQ) may find them a little intolerant of those less quick and perhaps poor at explanation. Reminding them of this can be done in a flattering way and may help everybody. These bright sparks tend to be more accepting of change, more interested in data and, of course, more adaptable and flexible.

Below-par bosses may take particularly sensitive handling. They resist new ideas and are frightened of bright young things from university. The really dim ones don’t even know that they are dim. They need a lot of help and support. Give them “suggestions” and show them how to do things. But don’t make them too reliant on you… they may hold on to you too hard and prevent your progress if they need you too much.

B. Personality
There are essentially five personality traits that require close attention. The first is perhaps the most tricky and almost a taboo to talk about. It’s neuroticism or, if you prefer, "negative affectivity". The stable boss copes with stress well, but the neurotic boss can be anxious, moody, thin-skinned, touchy and brittle, always pessimistic and worrying. Neurotic bosses are often unpredictable and need constant help, reassurance and calming down. They can have self-defeating characteristics which need looking out for, lest they defeat you as well. Neurotics are supersensitive: to the environment and others’ feelings. In that sense, they can be very compassionate, but their sensitivity makes them prone to low self-esteem, guilt, hypochondriasis, even obsessiveness.

The best way to manage these bosses for you own mental health is frankly to leave them. The cost of being a part-time therapist may be simply too high a price to pay.
The second important characteristic is extraversion. Extraverts are active, expressive, impulsive and sociable. They can also be risk taking, showing a worrying lack of reflection and responsibility. They are prone to make mistakes; to trade off speed for accuracy; to have too many brainstorming groups and parties; and to search for the elusive break through. Extraverts need not have their enthusiasm dimmed, but they need watching. They need to have their impulsivity tempered by more considerate judgment. But they also need lots of stimulation and variety to keep them comfortable.

Introverts are not shy, inadequate: they just don’t have the need for excitement that extraverts show. They tend to be more difficult to read because they prefer not to go to parties or meetings or give talks. They think first, speak later (unlike extraverts, who do it the other way around), and may seem slow and ponderous. They may seem cold, but that is just their discomfort around others.

Introverts trade off speed for accuracy. They may be helped by having an extroverted spokesperson. They prefer listening to talking and have a preference for “cold” over “hot” media: they prefer letters to meetings; emails to brainstorming sessions. Understand their likes and dislikes and you become more trusted and liked yourself.

We all like our managers to be conscientious: to be efficient, organized, reliable, responsible, dependent, thorough and prudent. Often they make the same demands of us, which can be a little exacting. But they get things done. Conscientiousness is a predictor of business success. It comes from upbringing and values. It is related to the work ethic and one’s conscience.
Conscientious managers can be rather tight-fisted and intolerant and they can be risk-adverse. But beware imprudent managers. They are lax with time, money and their personal responsibilities to others. They don’t follow through. They don’t pay their bills and they can be wildly incautious about all monetary and security issues. They may take time off when it suits them and be both indulgent and impulsive. They may appear as if they feel that 'The problem with instant gratification is that it takes too long.'

An imprudent, unreliable manager needs watching. They need lots of backup… but ultimately they probably need managing out of the organization… for everyone’s benefit.
The fourth personality dimension of salience is agreeableness. Highly agreeable managers are lovely: they are appreciative, forgiving, generous, kind, trusting and sympathetic. Their staff experience them as altruistic, modest and straightforward. Needless to say, they are well liked and have a reputation for being a good manager.

Those low on agreeableness are much less likeable. They may be cynical and sarcastic, argumentative and challenging, inconsiderate, suspicious and unhelpful. They tend to want to be admired and to be “somebody”. Their vanity and habit of putting people down make them unloved, unrespected and quite simply disagreeable. If their disagreeability is matched by great abilities, they may be forgiven their unkindnesses. But it is more likely that disagreeable managers get where they are through lies, nepotism or exploitation. If any of the latter, the best strategy is to leave or get them out of the way.

The fifth personality dimension of importance is one clearly related to creativity and intellect. It’s called openness to experience. Managers who score high on this dimension tend to be artistic and curious, imaginative and insightful, original and creative. Typically, they have a wide range of interests and are quite “intellectual”. Often, they are thought of as unconventional and a bit “arty-farty”. They like variety and novelty, but can scatter resources. For some, they are impractical dreamers: optimistic, energetic but unfocused.

Open managers are not fuddy-duddy. They embrace changes and are sensitive to the teachings and ideas of others. They are also aesthetically sophisticated. Some jobs call for little imagination and in those they are a handicap. But the real pains are managers who score low on this dimension. They tend to express both discomfort and perplexity in reaction to novel experiences. Their rigidity and lack of curiosity can be misunderstood as resistance. To help the less open manager, one needs to provide practical suggestions and new ideas. He or she needs to be helped to be more attentive to what is going on around them. They have an impoverished fantasy life and very conventional ways of thinking and behaving. Those scoring very low on this dimension are very hostile to new ideas, but those mid-way may come really to appreciate the new ways of thinking that you feed them.

If you have a bright, stable, agreeable, conscientious and open boss, celebrate your good fortune. If not, start practising you upward management skills!

Monday, October 25, 2010

Like Father Like Son

dunno when was this taken but... this is so rare!

Sunday, October 24, 2010

Research Report: Does Australia need the Civil Liability Statutes?

i dunno... you tell me

sorry for the Hiatus

hey dear frens... sorry for the hiatus.. will come back and blog more... been busy lately with school work and job projects... tough.. hang it there.. some of you still visit here... thanks lots.. give me some time to setttle down and adjust to my new work-life balancing life... :)

Friday, September 17, 2010

Happy Bday to me (",) blue blue - thanks guys - 15 Aug 2010


Joseph Vincent and Jason Chen - Just a Dream (Cover) NaiSE

Account got hacked... and retrieved... stupid Nigerian Hacker!

it was Red Alert last mth when i got a phone call at 7am on 21 Aug, Saturday morning..
i jumped out of bed... and was cursing and swearing at the back of my head cos i was having a very wonderful dream and it was shattered from the ringing of my phone... i F* remembered i shut my phone alarm off the night before....

hello...
it was from KW..
are u in Spain?!
what the hell man.. i am still in my dream land!
gosh.. i think ur email got hacked (such a nice chap aye?) :)
i jumped out of bed, check my Blackberry and .. it was true... my email got hacked... how i know? well.. i got this email asking me to change my password... and then my blackberry cant access my account already.. :(

what the helll.. a way to start my Saturday.. damn it

that explains why it took me a mth to start bloggin again... cos this account is linked to the hacked account... and worst.. linked to my facebook.. and my hotmail... and so the saga begins... all my account got hacked.. and i am offline for almost a month..

here's what happened

From: Ben Lee
Sent: Friday, 20 August 2010 16:45:56
Subject: Sad News Ben Lee

How are you doing ? Hope you slept well last nite ? I'm writing this with
tears in my eyes, my family and I came down here to Madrid Spain for a short vacation unfortunately we were mugged at the park of the hotel where we stayed. all cash, credit card and cell phone were stolen off from us, luckily for us we still have our passports with us. We've been to the Embassy and the Police here in Spain but they're not helping issues at all but we're having problems settling the hotel bills and we are being held to ransom by the hotel management because we cannot settle the hotel bills. It is clear we would not be allowed to leave until we settle the bill. Word cannot explain the anguish in my heart.i was wondering if you can loan me some Money to sort the bills i promise to pay back as soon as i get back home.

Regards,
Ben Lee


On 20/08/2010, Andy Lee wrote:

TT's sad Ben ..
How do i x'fer the money to you ?


From: Ben Lee
To: Andy Lee

Glad you came on line it is me for real all i need is a quick loan of 1850 Euro to sort my bills and get a cab to the airport cos it's been clear that the hotel management won't let me leave until my bills are sorted out You can have it wired to my name through any western union outlet i promise to pay you back as soon as i get back home here is the information you need to send the money


Name..Ben Lee
Location..Calle de Alfredo 28034 Madrid Spain


As soon as you have it done, Kindly get back to me with the western union details. (MTCN) confirmation i owe you alot
Let me know if you are heading to the western union now??


Hanging here to read from you


Andy Lee wrote:

I've not done western union transfer before
Am i able to send via internet banking ?

From: Ben Lee
To: Andy Lee

You can't send it through internet All you need to do is look for any
western union outlet and send the money to my name and present location and get back to me with the mtcn confirmation number please let me know if you are heading to the western union outlet

From: james cashin
To: Andy Lee
Sent: Friday, 20 August 2010 21:30:24
Subject: Re: Sad News Ben Lee

Ok if you want to transfer it to account here is the information you need


BANK NAME BANCAJA
BENEFICAIRL NAME TRACY MBEKI
IBAN ACCOUNT NUMBER ES60-2077-0017-7516-0318-2425
ACCOUNT NUMBER 2077-0017-7516-0318-2425
SWIFT CODE CVALESWXXXC
ADDRESS AVINADA SERAGOSA XIII PT 20 NO 7 MADRID SPAIN.


please after the transaction kindly scan the payment slipt and send it to me here so that i will be able to pick up the money with it here in spain.


bloody... thats all the conversation... my brother managed to get from teh hacker...
what happened next is that i started receiving phone calls and txts from my friends to check if it is genuine and some of them even offered to help... i am so glad these ppl are by my side... thanks so much... Edgar from  msia also called to check if i m ok... how sweet of them.... luckily it is not real... and i would not want to experience the exact thing mentioned in the scam email...

however, i am just afraid of the case on "the boy who cried wolf" why eventually ppl will not even step in to help even if it is a real deal.. i am so glad...

so glad now everything is over... and i am able to retrieve all my accounts back,.... well Microsoft is the fastest to respond to my SOS and then Facebook.... Google took them a month to return my cry for help... is it becos they have too many hacking cases or they are too lazy... hmm i wonder...

well... a note to all.. always update ur password every 2-3mths and also clear ur internet cache and do not share your password... do not access to password accounts on stranger's laptop or system,... not safe at all...

good luck.. :)